October 2016 - Luke and I made the decision to Adopt
December 2016 - We told our families
January 2017 - We told our closest friends
February 2017 - We attended our introductory info meeting at Bethany
October 2017 . - We publicly announced our adoption
February 2018 - We submitted A LOT of paperwork
Needless to say, we've been talking adoption for quite some time now and you know what.... it's still overwhelming. It doesn't seem like that much time has passed, but here we are in spring 2018.
Since our initial posts in October, we've been pretty quiet about where we are in the process and how we're doing. I'm ready to give you all some updates!
I don't know how 2017 was for you, but it was not my best year. Looking back, I was moving through the 5 stages of grief, but I didn't even realize it. Writing this piece about grieving infertility back in November was something I needed to do, and all of those words are still true, but I was still in the "depression" stage when I wrote it.
---- The 5 Stages of Grief : Denial, Anger/Anxiety, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance -----
If anything, I wrote that blog post for myself, to help me deal and move on into acceptance.
It took us a whole year to complete the paperwork. In our defense, it was A LOT of stuff (background checks, drug tests, tax information, etc.), but it doesn't have to take everyone a whole year to get it all done. I didn't feel a sense of urgency to do work on it and I am so thankful that I listened to God. If I would've pushed through and just gotten it done to to, the timing would not have been right. I wouldn't have been able to go through the training while I was still in the first 4 stages of grief.
During that time, I would see people LAP us in their adoption journeys. My competitive nature wanted to push through because others were "beating" me (that's SO silly!), but I'm so glad that I essentially kept my eyes on my own work. God was helping me realize everyday that this is OUR journey not anyone else's. I was confident that I would know when we needed to push and complete our paperwork and that's exactly what happened!
So now, I'm happy to report that I'm in the acceptance stage! It took me a one year, which is totally normal, and I am able to confidently switch my thoughts off of my grief and onto our child which is EXACTLY where you need to be when you move forward into the training/home study process..... which is where we ARE! We're in training!
We have 30 hours of comprehensive training to complete. 15 of those hours must be completed before our Home Study process is complete. We're chipping away at our materials. In a couple of weeks we'll attend an all day training event and I. AM. SO. EXCITED. We both are!
We'll be finished with our first 15 hours before we know it and ready for our Home Study. That means we are a giant step closer to bringing our child home. That also means that we have GOT to get busy fundraising!
We've got a lot of fundraiser ideas on paper, now we just have to get them going. Soon, we'll have a t-shirt fundraiser, so we'll definitely need your help. Right now I'm focusing on hosting a Scrapbooking Day on April 14th. I'm looking for 10 people to come and Scrapbook with me! I'll have everything you need except for your pictures. All you have to do is pay $40 and show up!
Thank you all so much just just being interested in our adoption. We get questions all the time and that is just the best. Thank you for being invested in our family! We've got a long way to go and we want you to come along with us!